Thursday, May 12, 2011

Friends don't let friends have pet cemetery's in their living room.

Hi. I had a really rough day. Work was like being slowly beaten to death with delicious rotisserie chicken. Sounds pleasant?  It's not. Trust me.

Yesterday's post, by the way, was I don't know what to do with his ashes, not I can't go on. I realize it sounded sort of...dramatic? Definitely dramatic. I am doing fine. Better than I expected actually. Our house is starting to normalize too. Neil is back to plotting my murder in the corner and short dog has resumed chewing on rawhide. The pictures are still up and it brings a smile to my face to see them now, instead of a blubbering nervous breakdown. I think we are going to be O.K.

So, about the ashes. Um. What do you do with pet ashes? I thought it would bother me to have them in the house, but it doesn't. At all. It makes me feel like he is here. But, I love pets. I will always have pets. And I picture myself in 30 years with like 8 wood boxes full of pet ashes and if life has taught me ANYTHING it is to lean towards looking less crazy. This leads me to think that scattering them is the right decision, but isn't that like saying goodbye all over again? Because it feels like that. In fact, I don't think I can do that. Not yet. 

I also contemplated burying them in Big Jed's yard and putting up a little grave stone. She will be in her house FOREVER and she has space and I could totally go visit him! But, there is one problem; I have not, in any way, discussed this with her. Also, I don't know if I even want to do this.

Gah! How do people make these decisions about PEOPLE? 

So, the moral of the story is that I don't know what to do. For now, keeping them feels right. So, I am going to do that. I just need a promise from all of you that if you ever come to my house and there is a weird pet cemetery in the corner that you will intervene. YOU MUST INTERVENE. 


Big Jed said...

#1 - You can totally use any part of my property and we can put up a little shrine.

#2 - I have had my kitty's ashes in my house since 2005. I was going to scatter them, but keeping them feels like she's still with me. Six years later. I keep them on the table in my living room, but they are kind of behind a plant so that if anyone ever walks by they probably wouldn't know what it was anyway. I say keep them until you are ready to do otherwise.

Anonymous said...

Your loss has gotten me thinking about my best friend (chocolate poodle) who just turned 13...

There are some places where you can get nice jewelry containers for portions of the ash:

Even better imho, there are places you can send a small sample of ash and they will handcraft them into glass rememberances of your choosing:

I wish you happiness in whatever you decide to do.

Krackle said...

I still have Kaya's. They are in a box in my closet. I am not sure if I will ever get rid of them. I like having them. She is with me this way.